LOVE AS A RELIGION
The love we come to practice. The kind of love we practice is a direct result of our Nature and Nurture.
How we love, whether it is how we choose to love, How we instinctively love, or How we love habitually, is almost not up to us, although we may change it.
The Love we practice is a combination of Nature and Nurture. It only makes sense that the way we love, our ability to love, is developed from who we are. Who we are, is comprised of two things: who we are genetically, thus our DNA and genetic makeup, and our environment, i.e.: the experiences we’ve had and the things we grew up around.
One reason Love as a Religion makes so much sense is because we both partially have no control over it (the DNA/genetic makeup of ourselves), and we partially do (we can change, I mean truly change, our outlook on the world, and the way we let our experiences affect us and our life).
Change, that’s the thing. People do change. It takes a lot of effort, perseverance, commitment, willingness (and a continuous list which are all understatements) to change, but it is possible. Therefore, if one doesn’t like the inherent Love Religion that they one day realize they practice one can change it. It’s not easy because it’s a part of the growth process and nothing within the growth process is simple. For example, when you learn something new about yourself, something you don’t particularly like, it’s natural to recognize it, say we are going to change, and then fall back into habit. To change takes someone who is extremely committed, open minded, accepting to criticism, accepting to critical perspective, and the list continues. Changing your Love Religion follows the same concept. If someone realizes they want and are willing to change, it is beautiful. However, the catch is this…they have to WANT to change for themselves and themselves only.
On this note, I recently discovered something. My whole life I have claimed to be open minded. I have claimed to be accepting of all those different than myself. What exactly does being open-minded entail? I used to think I was open-minded because I was accepting of different races, religions, ethnicities, cultures and lifestyles. But, what I’ve learned about myself is that although I may have been open minded on those subjects, I was never open minded when it came down to the differences in how others dealt with relationships, or how others chose to live their social lives, or, and to me most importantly, I was never open minded to how each individual chose to handle a hardship/situation in their lives. Because I am now babbling, let me give you an example. For me, my independence is extremely important. I believe it is important to know who you are as an individual, to gain understanding and perspective on who you are, and what your wants and needs are. Yet the catch here is, if someone else didn’t deal with a breakup in the same way I did, I was livid. It was infuriating for me to watch those I care about go through a breakup and then quickly move on to the next one. If I was open minded, as I had claimed to be, I would’ve learned long ago that what is right for me is not right for others. This same concept applies with your Love Religion. I have learned that the kind of Love Religion I practice is what’s right for me. It may not be right for my best friend. The effort I must put into truly changing my train of thoughts into becoming more open-minded is unlike anything I have ever done. However, like I said earlier, I had to want to change for myself, just like another must have to want to change their Love Religion.
I don’t know all the types of Love Religions. I’ve recently learned one new one, but I think there must be hundreds. And I don’t necessarily believe we all must ‘choose’ a kind of Love Religion. Choosing is not necessary because we don’t all know what our Love Religion is. That too takes time, revelation, thoughts, and more, to realize what kind of love you practice. And I feel lucky to have realized my kind of Love practice so early in life. I think if personally you are happy with the kind of love you are willing to give and the kind of love you are willing to receive, then that’s all that really matters. But I do think you must find someone who practices the same kind of Love; therefore, you and your partner are inherently happy together. If you don’t practice the same kind of love then one person is, and will always be, settling.
Love as a Religion could case some controversy from experts, theorists, priests, rabbi’s, or just passionate people, but I think all that would be needed to settle it would be the realization among all these people that no Love Religion is wrong, for those that maintain a consistent open mind.
What works for one may not work for another. THAT, is the beauty of Love Religion.